A theme to grow into

Are you an XIP, extra intelligent, extra intense, or gifted? How relevant, helpful and accurate is such an indication, such a label for you nowadays? As you may feel reluctant to apply this label to yourself or to others, you may also feel that you don’t want to talk about it anymore after a while. Compare it to cancelling your … ….. read on

How to Learn Intensely

Many XIPs have an innate preference for a specific mode of taking in and processing information without being aware of this. Their environment usually offers information in a certain mode, which may or may not provide an adequate fit for them. One may compare the results to having to listen, think and speak in your mother tongue, or in your … ….. read on

Coping with Solitude

In this blog I explore different perspectives on dealing with solitude for the Gifted and extra intelligent people (XIPs). My question is: Does a different perspective lead to different feelings and is that helpful? When I look up “solitude” in a dictionary, I find: 1.   the state or situation of being alone. 2.   a lonely or uninhabited place. Various perspectives … ….. read on

Objective and Subjective:

What’s my Perspective? While there are similarities in the approach both to the theme of giftedness and of extra intelligence (Xi), most differences can be related to the chosen perspective: Do you prefer objectively verifiable statements, even about yourself, or do you find it stimulating to use your own sensory experiences as a reference. In this blog I will compare … ….. read on

Too Much, or Just Right?

The theme intensity continues to intrigue me. Recently I was working on a presentation with the title: “Enjoying your extra intensity.” My attention was drawn by the original term for what has become known in English as “Overexcitability”. The Polish word used by Dabrowski “nadpobudliwość“ is more correctly translated as hyper- or superstimulatability. It is a diagnostic term in the … ….. read on

A Manual Helps

Suppose you buy a nice new piece of electronics, recommended by your friends or the media: unparalleled function and quality! At home, you remove its packaging; let the show begin! But unfortunately, it’s not working, or only partly. While one asks friends or experts, another starts searching for the manual, a third keeps on pressing all buttons, and a fourth … ….. read on

Welcome your Intensity

I like to use the characterization of gifted people by Mary-Elaine Jacobsen: They are uncommonly intense, complex and driven. (See webpage.) That characterization can be easily extended to all XIPs: In fact, it can be used as a kind of universal way of identifying this specific “group”, whether their gifts/talents are in academic achievements, sports, arts, counselling, healthcare, management, or … ….. read on

Let there be complexity

For me, complexity is normal: I’m used to e.g. view and understand important issues from many perspectives, and to gather and interpret information with respect to my interactions at different levels. But it also works the other way around: I am not only able to handle complexity, I need it too. Without complexity my work feels fragmented or superficial and … ….. read on

To Expect or to Wonder?

This blog is written with a first person narrator: While writing, I noticed that the tone improved when I kept it to myself. I suppose and hope that makes it easier to recognize. Expectations I have become aware how much I’ve always struggled with expectations: Other people’s expectations and my own. The struggle starts when the expectation has not been … ….. read on

Rise of the Introverts?

“Do you get energized by being among others, or by being on your own?” That is the core of various questions about your inclination towards extraversion or introversion. XIPs find the resulting label often confusing, especially if their real answer is: “That depends.” In this blog I want to clarify why it is relevant for XIPs to be aware of … ….. read on