A theme to grow into

Are you an XIP, extra intelligent, extra intense, or gifted? How relevant, helpful and accurate is such an indication, such a label for you nowadays? As you may feel reluctant to apply this label to yourself or to others, you may also feel that you don’t want to talk about it anymore after a while. Compare it to cancelling your … ….. read on

How to Learn Intensely

Many XIPs have an innate preference for a specific mode of taking in and processing information without being aware of this. Their environment usually offers information in a certain mode, which may or may not provide an adequate fit for them. One may compare the results to having to listen, think and speak in your mother tongue, or in your … ….. read on

Coping with Solitude

In this blog I explore different perspectives on dealing with solitude for the Gifted and extra intelligent people (XIPs). My question is: Does a different perspective lead to different feelings and is that helpful? When I look up “solitude” in a dictionary, I find: 1.   the state or situation of being alone. 2.   a lonely or uninhabited place. Various perspectives … ….. read on

To Expect or to Wonder?

This blog is written with a first person narrator: While writing, I noticed that the tone improved when I kept it to myself. I suppose and hope that makes it easier to recognize. Expectations I have become aware how much I’ve always struggled with expectations: Other people’s expectations and my own. The struggle starts when the expectation has not been … ….. read on

Mindset; phrase compliments carefully

How does it feel when people tell you how fortunate you are with your uncommonly high intelligence and your ease in accomplishing anything? Do you take your own mistakes very seriously? Do you think your own intelligence is more or less immutable, or do you think it can be changed by focused effort? Carol Dweck has been studying for more … ….. read on

A labyrinth for individual coaching

I can use the labyrinth in various ways as part of an individual coaching process. Walk your own labyrinth Usually as an element in a series of coaching sessions, the client and me choose a sandy location, e.g. a beach to go to. There I draw a labyrinth with my rake, following the clients preferences with regard to location, orientation, … ….. read on

Apply Xi

The first Practice, Acknowledging Xi, is by no means simple, but is in a way quite straightforward. The issue is relatively clear, although everyone’s personal angle on it is different. By consequence it may take relatively little or enormous effort to truly acknowledge being an XIP and enjoying Ximension. The second Practice, Exploring Xi, is a more complex issue because … ….. read on

The three Practices

A few years ago, I realized that, – for decades already –  discussions about uncommonly high intelligence are very often connected with feelings of disappointment and rejection, and of both sides being the injured party: Disappointment about unused talents and lack of drive or results on one hand and feelings of being rejected, underestimated, thwarted or denied on the other … ….. read on

How to Charm Gifted Adults into Admitting Giftedness

How to Charm Gifted Adults into Admitting Giftedness: Their Own and Somebody Else’s is the title of an article by Willem Kuipers that was published in Volume 11, 2007 of the American journal ‘Advanced Development, a Journal on Adult Giftedness’. This refereed journal is published by The Institute for the Study of Advanced Development, Inc., a nonprofit research institution in … ….. read on

Enjoying the Gift of Being Uncommon: Extra Intelligent, Intense, and Effective

Quite often uncommon competence, creativity and drive remain hidden or partially used by its owners. Do they perceive the gift of being uncommon as a millstone instead of an enjoyment? This book introduces and illustrates three practices for Extra Intelligent People (XIPs) to become more effective in their work and private life, for their own sake and for the sake … ….. read on